sorry

last night, something happened. he said, "i already said sorry". "did she accept your apology?", i asked. he replied, "no. it's no longer my problem."

i've been thinking about his response. and i remember reading a comment on Ne-yo's version of Take A Bow.

just some thoughts, or rather reflections, if i may say so.

is sorry enough? i rephrase, is saying sorry enough? a famous line from Dao goes like this: kung pwede ang sorry, para saan pa ang pulis? and i remember hearing those words from him everytime i say sorry (back when we were still together).

based on what he said, and how he delivered it, i would say that to this guy, saying sorry is enough. it's as simple as "i did something bad. fine. i admit it. i'm sorry."

but, is it really enough?

to me it's not.

siguro yun nga yung nagiging problema. people tend to overuse the word "sorry", in the same way that they overuse, if not misuse, the words "i love you".

words are powerful. indeed. but words are not enough. there has to be action. there has to be sincerity.

hindi enough na may ginawa kang mali, tapos magso-sorry ka lang, ok na. vindicated ka na agad. and worse, you act as if everything's okay again kahit hindi pa naman talaga tinatanggap yung apology mo.

you can't say that "it's no longer your problem". in the first place, you gave her/him the reason to be mad at you. tapos sasabihin mong hindi mo na problema kung hindi man niya tanggapin yung apology mo? i don't know, to me it's a sign of being insensitive and irresponsible.

naalala ko lang, the same guy once said, "hindi mo na kailangan pang magpaliwanag. you already said sorry. tama na yun." (you don't need to explain yourself.)

yes, there may be times when you don't really need to explain yourself (especially when you're talking to people who would never understand because they don't want to understand, or even listen to whatever you have to say), but there are situations when you need to. because "sorry" is not enough. it's just a word. it's never enough.

a certain song goes like this: sorry seems to be the hardest word. and to that i agree. why? because "sorry" implies change, and along with it comes the responsibility to make things right. you don't just say sorry. you need to show that indeed you are sorry.

ang lungkot isipin pero ang katotohanan, may mga taong bumabalewala sa halaga ng salitang "patawad". at ang malala pa dun, minsan ginagawa na lang nilang rason yung salitang "sorry" para lang makasakit sila ng iba. tipong, "pwede namang mag-sorry diba? so pwede kitang saktan. mag-sosorry na lang ako pagkatapos."

parang ganito: "God will forgive me anyway, so I can commit as many mistakes as I want. He is a God of mercy, right? And He loves me right? I can always ask for forgiveness and come back to Him anytime."

narinig ko na yan sa isang kaibigan.

hay. should i say life's like that? that's the way it is? we're not in an ideal world. people are not perfect. and they're not saints, so don't expect them to be holy?

but aren't we called to a life of holiness?

i'm not sure if this is still connected and if i'm making sense. pardon me. i'm just typing my thoughts out. :D

we were given the greatest commandment, that is to LOVE. and a tagline from an old movie says, "love means never having to say you're sorry."

my point: do your best not to commit anything which would lead you to saying "sorry" in the future. do everything with love and out of love (and i mean LOVE in its truest sense). and most of all, be sensitive and responsible. ^_^

good night philippines! ^_^